Sabu,
I have been talking to my T about it. I know she would really like for me to get out of the marriage. He is alot better with the kids then he is with me. We do have fun together sometimes. It just doesn't last long enough and then he is right back to treating me the same way. My T said she will be there for me no matter what I decide, and help in whatever way I need. She knows that I am afraid of my daughter being alone with him, because he can be pretty hard on her at times. My husband is one who feels that men are much better than women, and the women need to do what they are told.
Manic,
My T also said she wishes he would come in and talk. She also thinks he could benefit from some medication. He refuses to go in, because as he tells me he is doing nothing wrong, that if I would do as he says there would be no problem.
I have been thinking alot about leaving, but I was brought up that once you make the commitment of marriage, you stay in it. My kids are also very afraid of us divorcing, they want us together. I know most of the time he doesn't treat me in a very loving way, but I believe deep down that he does love me in his own way.