Hi guys

I m sure my problem is not new and there are fellow OCDers who have gone through this before..and i seek perspectives from both women n men especially men on how have they been able to deal with this.

So i m in a relationship with a girl who had a failed marriage for a year and is a divorcee, the guy cheated her and perhaps married her only for dowry and had a parallel affair with a model. This girl comes from a very known family with strong values and is an entrepreneur like me running a business since 4 years now...we both share great chemistry and understand each others business challenges very well, we have an amazing sex life and i love her insanely...

But heres the thing i have a profound past and had 4 relationships and she was only physically involved for a brief period with that jerk and was the only guy in her life she was physical with which lacked emotions and deep down she was unhappy and felt cheated....

Anyways so while everything is awsome and i m looking at marying her (i m never married) those ruminations about her past dont leave, i feel terrible with the thot that that jerk touched her and those imaginary obsessive sexual images create back n forth obsessions affecting my affection on her and stopping me from giving my 100% to her...

I really need a perspective and a new thought to ger over this and enjoy my life with her to the fullest.

I m in pain and this is affecting my work life and personal life horribly.

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