</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
It just hurts too much waiting for him to show signs of caring again.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">
almedafan, what are signs of caring that you are missing from your T? Is it just that he has suggested that your sessions not be so frequent? Or is he not listening to you anymore? Or maybe he is not empathetic anymore? Is he judgmental? Negative? Discouraging? Lacking in warmth? What is missing now that was there before? I think this is a serious topic to take up with your T, that you think he doesn't care anymore.

</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
he doesn't want to foster an 'unhealthy dependence' whatever that means.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">
I think you should ask him what he means. Does he think that seeing him more than once every other week will create this unhealthy dependence? What do you think? Can you ask him what has been his experience before in therapy with clients that develop a strong attachment to him? How does that usually play out? I am sure he is very experienced at dealing with this, as all T's must go through this time and time again. What can he do to move your attachment in a healthy direction (as he sees it)? I think this is a huge topic and you need to clearly understand what he means. And since he is the expert, he should have ideas for how to guide the relationship in a healthy direction (in his opinion).

Please don't just guess at what he means and reduce your sessions because of a vague statement from him. You need to understand this so you can do the best thing for yourself.