I know what it feels like to lose someone because he drowned in my MH bullshyt.

This is why I now purposely keep my sharing to the bare minimum, even though that ^ was BPD related stuff and my BP is common knowledge. Not that sharing and offloading MH details has ever really been my forté.

It takes A LOT for me to get to that point where I actually reach out and tell my bff I just need a hug because I'm struggling atm. And this is a woman I've known for 20yrs! lol

Also, I don't think its just normals that get burnt out or who can't handle us. I know I've certainly reached that point where I had NO clue how to help a fellow BP'er friend who's suffering.

My brain would work OT, like; do I just repeat what I said when they were last depressed? Do I have to come up with something new? How did we get through this the last time? Is me stressing over how to respond affecting the level of empathy I'm trying to get across?
And it can get pretty stressful when the person is a SH'er because you're not sure if they're safe, and you do your best to keep them online to make sure they're okay etc...

So if it can happen to me at times, I'm sure it just happens faster to a "normi"

Idk how to remedy you problem, nobody wants to hear "don't tell your friends all those things" many people want to be able to share everything. Even when their everything is way bigger than the next person's everything that is currently being shared with them.

This can throw the balance way off kilter, and can become unfair whether that's in turn unfair to us or not.

My logic is, T's wouldn't even have a profession if we could just tell these things to laymen all the time with stellar results for free... I mean those people have to have a degree just to listen to us!

Ps. Double lucky me, in time my bf actually came back despite me nearly taking him down with me at one stage.

I'm sorry I don't have advice, I was devastated when my BF chose to save himself instead of me. So I know what its like when someone bails on you. But I honestly can't imagine losing multiple people in similar ways... I'm really sorry that this has been your experience.