Your replies are ideas I havn't thought of yet. My biggest issue is about forcing. I can't tolerate forcing and manage to do it to my own self worse than anyone. I need to make T stop pushing instead of sit there and take it. I agree HealingMe that going there saying all's done just to appease and get her off my back, is a bit cowardly, and not my style, either. Nix to that. Thanks for reminding me. I think I'll just level and say how much it hurt and made me angry.