Becca, I know, I don't feel it either. My husband is unfaithful and has no desire to change, yet doesn't want out of the marriage. I am not angry. I want to leave the relationship but I am not angry at his actions, and like you, I don't want revenge. I am sad at the loss of our relationship and future together. People who know our story think there is something wrong with me. It makes me feel highly abnormal when those "normal" people tell me I should be angry. They even get angry on my behalf.

Becca, I hope your mother can reach the understanding you describe. It sounds like that would help you. (((Hugs)))