Good for you to take that step & push it through. I am doing an out of state divorce....I left him 7 years ago but had financial issues that needed to be taken care of first. I have my lawyer....& stbxh can't afford a lawyer....& out of state is all done by letter & his signature on the papers....which he might not sign & doesn't have a lawyer of his own so my lawyer doesn't have anyone to deal with to try & deal with him....& he's totally irrational on some things that he makes his mind up to.

Don't allow your H to make you feel guilty for anything....stand your ground. I know here in KY....my divorce lawyer is only $750....definitely not the $3000 that it costs for a divorce lawyer in Calif when I tried to start it there.

Stay strong......& know that you have support here that you are doing the wise thing..

If he chooses to change in the future & PROVE in via actions not just words.....then you will know if those changes happen....otherwise....you have taken the right action for NOW....& NOW is all that matters.