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Originally Posted by Perna
It sounds like you are setting up scenarios in your head that T is not part of that are confusing you more. I bet you apologize too often/much?  Try not to be so accommodating when you are asking a question; "Are you free 8-9 a.m. on Wednesday?" does not need, "It is okay if you aren't, I'll understand, I can come on Thursday two weeks later or at 5:00 in the afternoon of the 29th. . ." 
Ask a single question and wait for the answer to that one before continuing on? Another person does not have your thought processes or problems with scheduling and can only focus on one thing at a time, your initial question and how it affects themselves. |
Thanks so much for this Perna. Makes so much sense and had me laughing out loud
You are right, I am way too accommodating. Infact after I was getting all wound up about it, my husband asked if he could read the emails (as he knows how I misconstrue things often) and he was surprised and said that I had really made it sound like it was no big deal to me if she was free or not or when I could go. I need to learn to just ask for what I want...