Thank you all for your support and stories. It comforts me more than you know. A few things: Yes, he is married and I'm friendly with his wife. I have zero feelings for him in that way and hope he didn't think so! Also, he knows my husband well of course, so there's that. Oh, and btw, my husband sometimes helps him coach the team of 7-9 yo's - You'd think this head coach would have concerns about that. Some of the information I shared with him was so shocking that I think he was concerned he might have to report it to children's services because of my 8yo. (My husband threatened to burn me with boiling hot water and then hurled a chair at me when I was 30 weeks pregnant. Later he said things like, "If you love me you won't tell anyone", "Everyone knows you have a bad memory", "Your therapist is paid to believe you", and "What I do isn't abuse because I've never hit you".) In any case, I am sad to have lost a friend, if he ever was one, as well as his respect. Also, I'm angry with him because he never showed any real compassion and basically silenced me, which I think is the worst thing you can do to someone who's been hurt in this way. He says I crossed boundaries, and maybe I did, but I still feel kind of silenced. And this guy is one of the kindest, compassionate people I know, unless I'm a really bad judge of character. In his letter, he ripped me to pieces to the point where I wanted to shrivel in a corner and die - seriously. And I ended up apologizing profusely to him just to smooth things over and make things less awkward for hockey season. Geez.