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Originally Posted by velcro003
This stood out to me, and interestingly you put the sentences side by side. Don't you think this is an oxymoron? If you have a secure attachment, you wouldn't think about her "too" much, you would be ok with what you have, because you've internalized her. You may miss her in between sessions, or want to e-mail, but it wouldn't drive you to distraction.
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After I typed that I realized it was a contradiction. You're right. For a couple of months I did NOT think about her TOO much. I felt her "with" me and I told her I finally felt like I have a secure attachment toward/with her. It felt great and freeing. So once you feel that, can it disappear? I hope not! I had a crummy session and didn't like the way she responded to me, so I got triggered. I still feel the attachment is secure. Does that make sense or not?
I'm grieving that she can't be my friend, that she doesn't have to comment on my statements about her. She is usually more open with me. I feel like she rejected me. But I know I'm overreacting and the security of our therapeutic attachment hasn't changed.