[QUOTE=flours;3894074]Hi,

I've made the experience a lot that people don't even notice sometimes when I'm speaking. even if I'm standing right in front of them. they just suddenly start talking about something completely different while I'm in the middle of a sentence. or just turn around and walk away.

I don't know why that is.

but I've noticed that it happens less when I'm doing fine. I've been trying to figure out how it works for a long time. there must be something about the body language or the voice or something that tells them we don' t need to be heard. and that is less when doing well. it probably has a lot to do with self-confidence.

I'm not sure that it actually happens less when you're fine, or it's that you just notice it less. Probably more likely the latter of the two. When we are in a state of being what it like to call "hyper critical", where I will over emphasize everything anyone says or does. I may inject meaning into things where there isn't any. Like going to dinner with new friends, and assuming that the wife doesn't like me because of the way she was looking at me. Or assuming when you see some friends talking across the room that they must be talking about you. If your friend doesn't return your call/text, they're mad at you or they just don't like you as much as they like the other girls in the group, and you wonder why? It is such a frustrating feeling to be stuck in this hyper critical state where you are constantly questioning everything, and every relationship. Do they really like you? Are you good enough? How can I be good enough? But, obviously, I don't know, because I'm stuck myself. Sorry.