im kinda embarrassed to answer this cause what if my friends see it and then they will know I have a sex toy at home...lol.....but being single for 14 years I need something....but I suffer the same shameful thoughts...what if I die and my kids find it when they clean out my underwear drawer...but then I figure what the hell...they know I have been alone..i think it is the shame that has been drilled into us about masturbation that makes us think this way..we have to fill our minds with the research that it is totally healthy and normal and feels good to get over that bad programmed stuff. simply put, it is wrong. there is nothing wrong with feeling good. were not hurting anybody by doing it. so go buy your toy and enjoy.