A year ago I was post-divorce, deeply in therapy, started dating my boyfriend, who is quite adventurous... And it was like discovering my body and solo/partnered sex for the first time. I bought sex toys for the first time (I got curious because of his collection), and ho boy, let's just say that if I die and someone other than my partner cleans out my things, they are gonna get an eyeful! I figure that whatever happens to me when I die, I'm not going to be likely to care about who sees my sex toys. Not to mention the fact that it's statistically very unlikely that I'm going to die anytime soon.

If it isn't important to you that they look realistic, there are maybe a few dildos out there (generally glass, metal, or ceramic) that look more like art objects than dildos. But unfortunately, there are a lot fewer discreet, non-realistic dildos than other toys, like vibrators.