I sat for about 8 years across from an analyst couch and one day I asked him if I could lie on it before he retired... as he was retiring. I felt silly on it and now wish I had spent more time that day on it ... just to more thoroughly experience it. Funny the things we remember eh?

Yes maintenance of connection is an interesting phrase and very valid. It takes work on both sides of the .....couch I suppose.

May I also share that I think it can help to connect and that you may not necessarily feel that connection as a positive thing but it may be a necessary thing... and you may be reaching darkness in that connection. Your own darkness perhaps. That can be positive despite what you may think.

In dealing with the darkness... you are also connecting....and bonding.

My current doc delayed me to go less often...every two weeks... as I think he thought I was getting too close perhaps. Wanted me to be more independent. Go figure .... I now wish to move forward and go weekly to a scarey part of myself I wish to deal with.