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Some people have more difficulty than others connecting with their therapist. What are your thoughts, concerns, barriers, successes with connecting with your T?

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With my first counselor, I didn't really connect with her. I didn't know I was supposed to. She seemed adequate to me. Now that I know about the wonderful connection you can have with a therapist, I look back on the experience with her and wonder why we didn't connect. Perhaps part of it was she practiced a somewhat superficial (although not ineffective) form of therapy--getting me to eat and exercise better, get more sleep, build up my network of friends, etc. We didn't go deeply into anything and I'm not sure she knew how (or considered it would be helpful to me). She was also not very insightful. I just didn't click with her.

With my current T, we connected almost instantaneously, like a clap of thunder going off and a rush of wind, whooooosh! Wow, I love having a connection to my therapist now. There have been some barriers, but we have worked on them productively.

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How much time do you spend thinking of the session you have had after you leave the session?

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I think about our sessions a lot. I often come to new insights about what we discussed after the sessions and make changes in my behavior accordingly. Sometimes I wish I were "faster" to pick up on what is going on in therapy as it is going on, so I could react when T is there with me. But it often takes me a while to process and "get" what happened in therapy.