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alexandra_k said:
hmm... maybe he didn't respond to it directly 'cause i didn't talk about it directly... maybe he is trying not to freak me out...

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Could be. Maybe he is waiting for you to bring it up directly, so that he knows you are ready to talk about it. My T and I have been doing this little dance lately in therapy. And I've been so clueless it took me forever to know what was going on. He would so strongly like to help me move forward with solving my marital problems. He wants me to bring in my husband as he can help me in different ways if my husband is present than he can if I am in session alone. But he won't ask me to bring my husband in or even suggest it, as he knows this desire has to come from me. I have told him on occasion before that I did not want to bring my husband in and was not able to share freely with him (T) as long as I thought that was a possibility. I've been fairly rejecting, I see now. So he has done this thing where he keeps offering me examples of how he has helped couples in therapy, in instances where no one else had success, of all his training and successes, and techniques he uses and the positive end results, etc. I guess finally all this just sunk into my brain that what he is saying is "sunny, please, let me help you. This is what I do, and I am so good at it." This was a watershed realization for me that came between sessions, and the very next session I suggested that maybe my husband should come in with me to see him. And this opened up so much for us. So many new avenues to consider. I really now feel we are a team trying to solve this problem in the way that is best for me. But yet, he couldn't ask me himself to bring my husband in. And this is maybe similar to your situation, alex. You need to be the one to bring up the attachment topic with your T. He can't know when you're ready. All he can do is try to build trust and a safe environment for you to pose topics that are difficult and threatening and scary.

That's very longwinded! --sorry