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Normal means well to high-functioning. For example, one sets his/her sights on college, achieves the grades to be accepted into college/university and is able to attend classes, do the work necessary in order to graduate in a timely manner. Find a good (pay and fit) career and along the way have a family that functions well practically and lovingly. Buy a home and a car that is a decent new or late-model vehicle (because you can afford to have at least a decent standard of living). A well-balanced emotional life...not terribly over-sensitive, rejection-sensitive, no rage issues. To be able to sit with friends and discuss adult things like mortgages. Yearly vacations and a week-end away now and then. Going out to dinner and a movie and being able to afford it. And so on. Basically, the American dream. Just a "normal" life.
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In my country only 14% people have uni degree. Not sure how many % graduate in "timely" matter, from first uni they studied, without prolongings or dropping one field or having to take year off because they weren't accepted to uni they applied to.
I know this is different from the USA... but just saying.
Also over here many of us live in tiny condos in depressingly looking suburbs that reek of the socialist era. New car? Wow, my family is definitelly not "normal" in American way. Never had car that was less than 10 years old.
Family? What if one chooses to do it solo?
Career? Once I was chatting with my friend from Serbia, back then unemployed. She sadly nodded that it's "normal" down there to be unemployed for long time after getting out of Uni.
And well, let's not even mention what is normal East of my border. Or how normal looked in the times of communism (when homosexuality.... or disagreeing with the party... were mental illness). It was normal to steal ("who doesn't steal from the state, steals from their family"), to cheat, to be two-faced... or complete swine on the way to the top...
So screw these unrealistic goals and definition set by society.
I dislike the word normal. Comfortable in your own skin should be the goal. Which sometimes involves being not "normal". Being at peace doesn't really seem "normal" or the standard lately. If you look closely.... many people are messed up, behind their fancy homes and cars.
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