OK, I hope this isn't mean, but this is what I really think... I figure if I was in your shoes I'd want to know. She didn't forget. You asked to meet with her for a better ending with more understanding, and she replied saying she needed you to do certain things before she could meet with you again. You wrote her back and said basically, no, I don't think I'll do that, but I will be making an appointment to see you again. ?! I'm sorry but that's not how any healthy adult operates. You think she's just going to roll over and say, oh you're right, actually I don't need you to do those things in order to see you again, thanks for clarifying my opinion for me.

In my mind she probably is just fed up going around in the same circle with you. You obviously have no respect for her, or her opinion or anything, you just really just want her to do the whole thing your way on your terms. Maybe in her mind this is a better ending. This way you'll be really angry and get over her.