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Originally Posted by shakespeare47
I've been there. I didn't know that that reaction was common in narcissists. How did you come across this insight?
I'm doing okay lately, by just being a regular person around the people who give me the most grief. I don't give them any reactions, and I try not to stand out in any way. I try to be boring around them. It's something of a mantra these days. Be boring, be boring. Nothing exciting going on... business as usual, thanks for asking.
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I dated at obsequious narcissist in college. Later in life I knew another one who is capable of the most extraordinary self-abasement, and it makes him very angry.
Keeping your head down is OK, but mind that you don't become depressed being so boring and blase. I've done that, hiding unacceptable giftedness. Gifted traits and narcissistic traits overlap, and people hate the authentically superior with the same vengeance with which they hate the superiorious.