I am female and am attached to my female T. I have been seeing her for 9 months. If I have to be honest, I've been attached to her from day 1. I have written her 3 emails saying I loved her. I guess she didn't read the "I love you" part in the first 2 emails (maybe not even the 3rd). I constantly brought up in session that I don't like how close I feel to her, how I feel like my feelings are inappropriate, and that my feelings for her are more than just caring.

Well, after the 3rd email we talked in session about my feelings. I thought we were talking about how I love her. I had/have no clue what she was talking about. Anyways, she told me that she doesn't reciprocate my feelings, but that doesn't mean that will always be that way. I did my best to hold myself together, but by the time I got home I had a complete breakdown.

Long story short, she wasn't talking about the fact that I love her. In fact, she is now starting to use the phrase "it comes from love" when she has a concern about me.

In the end, it turned out well. I don't ever expect her to say "I love you" to me. She's not that type of person. And I really never expected her to love me (but thinking she said she didn't sure hurt). My best advice: be clear. Having a misunderstanding about such a sensitive topic can be devastating. And if you can't say how you feel, try writing it.