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Originally Posted by musial
Thanks so much, Leah! I'm glad to hear your experience has been mostly positive after talking about strong feelings for your T. It is terrifying to me but I do trust my T and feel like he will probably take it in stride, although it's still so scary to me to talk about.
I lately get in this state in my sessions where I am talking about something seemingly unrelated but suddenly become unable to get words out or make coherent thoughts... it's embarrassing, and I have realized it's due to this "elephant in the room" of not talking about my feelings towards my T. I turn red and get so close to talking about it, but can't.
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I wanted to add that the 'probably take it in stride part' is true. Many therapists expect clients to have strong feelings toward them, and that those feelings are often a result of needing things we didn't get in the past, such as from our 'messed up families of origin' as you mentioned. So, indeed, to therapists who do this type of work, it's not nearly such a big deal a lot of the time for them as it is to us. Not so awkward or shameful or problematic.
I wonder if you could maybe print a copy of your post here for your therapist- sometimes people (including me) find that writing something out first instead of having to speak about it, is an easier way to raise difficult topics.