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Originally Posted by fluffbuster
hello debra. you need to ask yourself WHY you are striving for all this (whatever the 'this' is). are you striving for YOU and your expectations of yourself - or are you striving to complete someone else's expectations? many times, stress comes from doing things you think are expected of you but not actually what YOU want to do. do you actually like what your future will be? are the exams REALLY that important to YOU - or to others who deem them important so that you can further your career in what is expected of you?
suppose your father is a chemist and you feel you ought to follow in his footsteps - but actually you yourself would love to be a writer. you must decide who is more important - your dreams or your father's. if you put someone else's dream before your own, you , probably , will always be stressed and sad. i wish you well and hope you find a vocation YOU enjoy.
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Well thanks, but I'm well ahead of this phrase....
my mom is a writer, my dad is an engineer... although I write and kind of nerdish, but I never wanted to be eighter... my mom wanted to be a doctor or a tleast a nurse, but she couldn't manage to go to collage, but her life is so drastically different that it is just simply no match.
I always wanted to get a higher degree in something - because I'm thrilled for knowledge, science and I like to think.
however school was kind of traumatizing for me.... and I become a musician/music teacher because that was a clear path that time.... leaving behind any plan, simply because "I could never study that much...."
And after a grand breakdown of things I had to reconsider my plans for my future.... and I sucessfully come back to the starting point - when I loved knowledge and wanted to learn science.....
A friend of mine said, when I told her I can't really feel happy about my successes - "you're just naturally got disappointment in a lot of things that previously was your interest."
and indeed. this is my second run for getting a career....