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Originally Posted by StbGuy
... the basic needs of the "normal" person are not met (that are naturally met without even consciously trying in a relationship between "normal" people). Romantic relationships are all about emotional expression, especially love, and that's the problem I have since I have the condition - lack of emotional expression (and empathy). Even on my best day, trying my hardest, a "normal" guy would blow me out of the water with no effort at all, he doesn't even need to think about it, it's natural.
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This is a stereotype; don't be fooled by it.
All relationships need effort and work at times. Two humans, by definition imperfect, living in such close proximity for so long -- no matter how starry-eyed a couple is in their early days together, real life and its problems
always reassert themselves. Nothing comes "naturally" for
any couple at that point.
IMHO one of the foulest phrases in all of literature (because grossly unrealistic) is, "And they lived happily ever after." Alas, "And they confronted their problems unafraid, with decency and respect for each other's views, and found mutually acceptable compromises" doesn't have the same ring, and certainly wouldn't have made the Brothers Grimm or Walt Disney any royalties.
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Originally Posted by StbGuy
I just suck, and I should just accept it....
I can't drag someone into a relationship with me and force them to endure an emotionally empty, stupid, joke of a relationship, that's not fair. I know nobody wants to hear me say this, but I really do deserve to be alone.
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Don't. Give.
Up! If you were really that selfish, you wouldn't be expressing these concerns -- and indeed wouldn't even be
capable of doing so. There's a book called
The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man's Quest to Be a Better Husband by David Finch. I haven't read it yet and thus can't pass judgment on it, but you might want to check it out.