[QUOTE=Crescent Moon;3900137]I really get that. I think different therapists from different orientations feel differently about it. Most CBT therapists have little if any training in how to deal with it, and would avoid it like the plague. Mine had a lot of training in it and believed it was essential for me. And she was exactly right. I was very attachment-avoidant, and really didn't even understand what "attachment" meant or felt like. I was super-independent and cringed at the thought of being dependent on anyone in any way. She kept talking to me about it, with a wry smile. It would make me recoil inside, and I was quite boastful about my having no need for suck a ridiculous thing. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. Literally. I'll never forget the day that she was telling me that she would be going out of the country for a few weeks. My heart sunk, and I (without thinking) blurted out "What will I do?" She slowly leaned over, never taking her eyes off mine, and slowly said (with that wry smile), "Sounds like attachment to me." That was when the real journey of trust began.

I had a moment where I blurted out and it surprised me. She had just said I have transference and then started scheduling the next session. I yelled "we can't stop now!" Lol