I'm just happy there is someone out there speaking out in defense (or at least not attacking) narcissists. I came across one T online who basically said "there is nothing good in NPD's... they are so damaged and pathetic that they don't even understand the problems they cause".

Someone needs to counter that attitude. Vaknin is better than nothing.

(Do you know something that's really funny? I frequently use "that" instead of "who" when referring to something that someone did. I even depersonalize and make people into objects in my writing. I'm always correcting errors like that in my writing.)