Hi
It helped me to understand where I took my negativity from also how rooted it was. I have a habit learned from my mom. Also, it helped me to forgive her and understand she had a hard childhood and her negativity was a defense mechanism for her (to anticipate to disappointment and thus have the illusion to have some control on things), Then I was able to hear the negative voice in me very loudly and then tell myself not to pay attention to it. But, I am not successful every single time.