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Jul 28, 2014, 04:11 PM
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Originally Posted by Hellion
I thought passive aggressive is when you try to make someone feel bad/insulted or something, like with exaggerated body language and sort of subtle things. Not to mention that is not a disorder, it is a behavior anyone is capable of.
So they only way I could see it as being that would be like, if they are trying to 'hint' they have a problem with the person by saying they will do things and not following through....but seems like there would be easier ways to hint at that message.
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Hi Hellion, This is an excellent explanation of passive-aggressive behavior. I located it on a psych website.
Passive aggressive is about being passive, appearing to be "ok" with things, and saying "yes." The passive aggressive will say "yes" to requests even if they don't want to do them. They don't have the strength to stand up for themselves and just say no assertively.
So a passive aggressive is someone who just gets pushed about throughout life simply because they can't say no. They tend to feel there are a lot of demands placed upon them at any given time. Since they can't say "no," instead they resist very subtly, which causes problems.
To use slightly different words, a passive aggressive appears to accept most requests made of them, but inside may dislike those requests, and will fight against them subtly. They lack the strength, self-worth, and confidence to openly refuse or object. Passive aggressive people appear to accept a situation - or pretty much anything - when underneath the are uncomfortable with the idea so they fight against it subtly.
Passive aggressive is:A defense mechanism that allows people who aren't comfortable being openly aggressive get what they want under the guise of still trying to please others. They want their way, but they also want everyone to still like them. Here's another great definitionIndirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing the feelings. There's a disconnect between what a passive-aggressive person says and what he or she does. For a passive-aggressive person, true feelings are shared through actions, not words.
Passive aggressives use tools to achieve their objectives : masked feelings, feigned ignorance, avoidance, feigned forgetfulness, subtle sabotage, procrastination, and flaking.
Actually, there is a pattern of behavior called "Passive-aggressive personality disorder."
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