My mother also had a very twisted perception of me, although she said she loved and worried about me. I think she felt she said/did things for my own good.

It is hard to undo years of basically brainwashing, that you are the perverted one. But try to think of it this way... when your mother saw something sexual in the way you sat or slept, SHE was the one having sexual thoughts, NOT you. She was projecting those thoughts onto you and blaming you for them.

Honestly, I don't think someone can "love" someone and do this to them... you might want to think about how you define love and see if it is attached to being hurt or betrayed for you. If you think it necessarily involves compromise or abuse.

Hang in there, M