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Jul 28, 2014, 10:24 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2010
Location: Colorado
Posts: 3,794
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Originally Posted by Sister Rags
Hi Hellion, This is an excellent explanation of passive-aggressive behavior. I located it on a psych website.
Actually, there is a pattern of behavior called "Passive-aggressive personality disorder."
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Oh ****!
I sometimes agree to stuff I don't really want to do, but typically do not try to express that at all...couldn't say if it never gets out or not. But much of the time its over being overwhelmed or whatever and feeling guilty about not being up for something so I try to 'fake it' you could say. Got bullied a lot, have trouble with assertiveness, have no self confidence, self worth...guess some strength if I am still here...
However I actually do care about other people, much of the time more than me not really just acting like that to get what I want though yeah considering I have needs I have to have met and sometimes have trouble expressing stuff verbally(I also have aspergers syndrome making socialization difficult) like if I need to go to sleep I might have impatient body language to be left alone to do that for instance...of course I prefer others to like me or at least to avoid conflict even with people who don't like me per say, since I got plenty of exposure to that as a kid. But its not like wanting my way but screw everyone else sort of thinking half the time I am confused as to what 'my way' would even consist of much of the time either way life drains my will to live... anyways does that 'my way or screw you' sort of thing have to be the thought process behind it for it to be considered passive agressive?
I procrastinate and avoid things, but due to executive dysfunction and anxiety...actually am forgetful as much as anyone might think I can just control that I guess I have used that a couple times when it wasn't the case like to avoid conflict or afraid of being criticized for the real reason but most times if I forget I actually did forget....I do share real feelings with words, as best I can though yeah it can be difficult though and I don't like to be upset in front of people so I try and mask that.
So I suppose I wonder....if people can come off that way without actually fitting the criteria, or if what I just posted is a more realistic perspective of what actually goes on in the mind of someone described that way....meh
Either way I don't recall learning about that being a PD when I took abnormal psychology, thought it was more of a symptom of various disorders but it was a while ago so I may not remember hearing of that particular one...That describes me a lot unfortunately except for what it implies actually is going on in the mind of the person exhibiting said behavior. I already have diagnoses of Aspergers, reoccurring major depression, anxiety and PTSD also at my hearing for SSI I found out through a medical expert my attorney had testify its documented I have traits of Avoident PD(not that I was too surprised about that, but could more be about the anxiety).
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