Did the guy breaking into the business have a gun pointed at his head by someone else to make him do it? Did he need to feed his family?

I tend to take the view of pitying my abusers because I can understand that they have been hurt. That just like me they didn't chose to suffer as they have. They were punished long before they met or damaged me.

I understand this is not a popular view and it is clearly one you don't share so I will now bow out.

Good luck.