Hey - trying to stay "me" while 10 is thinking
we don't have inner rooms - never have. Is that common? I'll have to check the DID forum. We just change places from forward to back, so that when 10 is forward, I am waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay back like the back of a football field. well, when most any of them are forward. Some share head space with me all the time anyway, but when they take charge, the littles push me way back, while some share "Forward", if that makes sense. One other adult admittedly often pushes 10 to injure, if she's unsure if she really wants to or not. 22 will say "oh just do it!" 22 has her own form of harm, namly alcohol. After a really hard monday yesterday, she ended up in front and got what she wanted. Thankfully, tho, there has be no physical injury in a week since I made 10 go into the ER. That's what I was hoping for - a wake up call to her that 'if you do this, this is the consequence'.
I will have to figure out this whole T thing... and pnurse also. None of it is going well. Plus the stress of trying to find a healthier place to live (moving upsets EVERYONE because after a move as a kid was when we were hurt by the abuser and we moved often). Getting to this place was super hard with 6. She was so scared. But it really is unhealthy and I think they injure all the more because of the stress here.
Thank you for sharing your ideas! I have heard of people "meeting at the conference table" and having check-ins. it's a totally foreign concept for us. There is no inner design.
OMG hahahah, I just thought of Sesame Street with Elmo going "Near..... FAR!!!!! Near....... Far!!!!!!!"