I am new here and decided that with all of my frustrations I need support. There are people in my life I can talk to but they are just bewildered as I am when it comes to some of the questions I have. I have personal problems of my own I will probably address from time to time... I also have insight into things where I would love to try my best to help others as well .

For now this is my problem.... It's with my sister and is a long story I will try to sum up quickly so some of my indications may be blunt! My sister is 29 and I am 26... Growing up I looked up to her of course as we had no other siblings.. My parents divorced at a young age, she went with my mother who allowed her to run wild and do whatever, and I stayed with my dad who is just as social awkward and anxious as me. All through high school my sister was a problem child but nobody really noticed because she also had good grades and did cheerleading... She was a complete slut in high school... But she was still popular and people weren't making her feel bad for it... She was always drinking, getting high ect. During her college years she got arrested, served about 3 months in a PDC for a drug charge and got out... She completely changed her life. Got in church, got married to a preacher, wouldn't wear pants, didn't own a t.v. They lived like the amish, except they had electricity. She was a stay at home mom with their eventual 3 children. She did online school, homeschooled her kids, cooked cleaned everything. Well about 7 months ago they moved out of their house and moved closer to me and my grandmother...(my dad passed away 3 years ago and was extremely traumatic for me... and my sister wasn't that bothered by it.) About a month after my sister, brother-n-law and their 3 kids moved here... My sis decides to stop online school and go to a college campus... everything went downhill from here.... 9 years into her marriage and being a stay at home, mother, housewife christian... it took 1 week at school for her to meet a boy.... and decide she wants to leave her husband AND kids because she can't stand them anymore....

For the past 7 months my sister has been in and out of 3 pysch wards in our state... and 2 more in Florida. She has slept with 10 guys or more... Been on and off drugs and alcohol... all the while she'll come home once a month... claim to want her husband and kids back.. only to leave the next day out of boredom. She met someone at her rehab in florida and went to stay in New jersey with him for a month... this is like guy number 15 or something.... Well now she's suppose to come back to GA for God knows how long, until she goes back to Florida for God knows how long.. She's no longer in facilities she's living off people, taking advantage of family members and friends to get money so she doesn't have to work, do school or anything. My family is completely enabling her and don't seem to care that she's abandoned her 3 kids who are 7, 5, and 3. The kids are pitiful and confused.. I'm having to help raise and provide for them when I can barely stay afloat myself... My husband and I have 2 kids and one on the way..

I've tried every approach with her.. being nice... being mean... being understanding... avoiding her... giving her advice... ridiculing.... The reason I am here today is because she has been posting pictures on social media of her and all her friends saying things like "haters gonna hate" (which i don't even think she knows what that means) and rubbing it in everyone's face that she is living this free life... Well to me.. It is spitting in my face and my grandmothers because we are here doing her job for her children. I don't know what to do.. They say she's bipolar and has a personality disorder, but didn't state which one. But now she uses her "nervous breakdown" as an excuse to behave this way, with no remorse, regard, or gratitude towards anyone. She has even said she has no maternal bond towards her kids at all.... and to be honest I can't think of anyone that she ever loved selflessly. She has always been spoiled and selfish... I don't know if I should kick her out of my life... or try and help her. When I've tried helping her in the past she would run away from me and not speak to me for weeks... then call as if nothing happened. she brags about her new life and her sexual conquest like she is proud. Is this behavior of someone with a mental illness or someone who got tired of being settled down and gave up??? I have social anxiety, separation anxiety, and general anxiety... esepcially being pregnant and off my anxiety medication... so i'm always on the edge and worrying... We had a cousin last year who died in a car wreck at 26 because she was drunk driving... i fear for my sister's life and the future mental state of my neice and nephews. Sorry this was so long.. But i need help badly!