I experienced it first hand Eskie, I never saw the body language, I never saw my husband even look at other women that way, it totally surprised me and others. However, what I experienced is how he often put me down and treated me badly at times, I learned later that was all about "his" guilt and how it was easier for him if he could find things to fault me for. I was really good to him, caring, loving in every way, it was not anything I did wrong, it was his own ego, but he was also a binge alcoholic and that was also a boat of denial all in itself. A lot of it was about "his" low self esteem which stemmed from his
learning disability of dyslexia and compulsive ADHD.

Eskie, you and I have much in common in a way, we tend to trigger due to "not being herd" communicating fine, but the other partner was not "listening" due to their brain challenges.

This short clip of information is interesting in that "cheating" often takes place because the individual is "unhappy" with themselves and someone "new" who is exciting to them can be and "escape".

There are a lot of different ways people do this "ego escape" too, the internet is quite the playground for this too. A person can create a secret identity in an effort to feed their ego in some strange ways.

OE