Hey InACorner,
My father is also a major alcoholic. The same type of stuff you have described happened to me. Eventually, I just left him—moved to another state. I decided I was a person worth more. I am not advising you to just leave your father—that is a personal thing. But, yeah, he is my father—nothing can change that. I find him embarrassing…I hate it that people know he is my father—I am ashamed of his behavior. He is a good reminder that I need to stay sober. That is about the only gift he has given me—a bad example—I know I don’t want to do anything he does—including drinking. Hang in there.