My T has permission to call my H & she's always very careful about what she says so as not to break confidentiality.
I've been in serious crisis. My T knows this. She asked me several times to go inpatient but I refuse knowing what a mess it makes for my H & our 3 small children. It makes things very difficult for him.
I had decided last Friday morning to take my kids & go visit family 3 hrs away. When my T heard this she called my H & told him I was not well enough for the trip, that I needed to go inpatient, we stay home or he makes the trip w/me to make sure I'm safe.
He decided to go w/me. When I asked him why, he said he talked to my T & since I haven't been sleeping that he should drive & be w/me. He didn't seem very concerned & I asked if my T mentioned anything else & he said no.
When we returned from our trip I got to hear the voicemail that she left him & mentioning her great concern & need to go inpatient. My H never mentioned this to me...@ all.
My H can be very selfish. We have a vacation coming up next week. He also sees me going inpatient as a cop-out & me not dealing w/my problems. That I'm running away.
Is this my H's ultimate act of selfishness? To keep me home for his own good? Or am I being paranoid? It just seems like if it was the other way around I'd step in to help. I'm not good at helping myself & sometimes need to be pushed a bit. I'd also feel a lot more comfortable if I had my H 'permission' to go inpatient. His reassurance that everyone would be ok if I wasn't there.
I don't wanto jump to conclusions. We've had a very rocky marriage & we mentioned divorce a few months ago. He's also emotionally abusive but would never admit to that.
Am I over reacting?

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