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Originally Posted by here today
It’s my view that most of us who have PD’s, or have had them, developed them as a way to cope with underlying unresolved/unresolvable trauma. Without some empathy and understanding about that, somewhere in the society, we are all going to be in deep s*** in my view. But, as someone wrote in another thread, mine seems to be a minority view.
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I agree completely. One of my beefs with the mental health profession is that they seemed to want to get me to think about today, without doing a thorough history, or helping me deal with the unresolved trauma, and even worse, some of them downplayed what happened, like they thought I was making too big a deal of it, and my perceptions were skewed.. It was maddening.
I think what I really wanted/needed was a parental figure who would get angry with me, for me, at the poor treatment I got, and do what a caring parent would do... get angry, and bring those who had abused me to justice!
It's sad and almost a little funny that the 1st therapist I saw back in 1989 (I was 23), did do those things.. but, because she also tried to get me to "recover" some memories, she made things worse.... maybe part of it was also just just the fact that dealing with the pain of reliving that trauma was more than I could deal with at the time.. anyway, I attempted suicide, and never saw her again.. Every other counselor I've seen since then has downplayed the trauma.
I fantasize about getting in touch with her again... It might take some doing, but I might be able to figure out her name... and see if she is still around. She was also the only female counselor I ever had.... maybe I should try to find another female T.