Without taking this thread off topic, stop selling yourself short.

The problem isn’t your Asperger’s Syndrome but your lack of confidence which is showing through in posts like these and you need to completely remove yourself from that cycle or things are only going to go from bad to worse for you going forward. I understand it isn’t easy and most of my childhood is full of memories of my Father putting me down because of my disabilities but I don’t let the opinions of narrow minded pricks like him dictate my life anymore and you shouldn’t either. I don’t know you or what you have been through in your life but from observing some of your posts on this forum you seem to have developed an inferiority complex where you believe people who are normal are better than you or superior because they are normal and you are not. They’re not and take it from a person that has spent years studying the concept of ‘normal’ to hide my disabilities being normal is boring.

It is like having to constantly follow a book of rules or playing a character in the script of a movie and you have to be so careful not to make any wrong moves or say one little thing out of place because if you do there is a good chance somebody will pick up on it. I used to hate having Asperger’s and I still do some days because it ****s with my head but you know what? If I was given the chance to choose out of being normal or being kooky now I would choose kooky any day because if there is one thing I have learned from my Wife who is even more kookier than me it is being kooky is fun and interesting and when you find a person that is just as kooky as you who you can let go and be crazy with you will see that and you will wish you were able to see that before and you didn’t listen to other people.

Having Asperger’s Syndrome does not mean you can’t be a good husband or a good Father and I love my daughter and my step daughter and almost everybody I know including my Wife always says I am a great Dad but my step daughter calling me Daddy is what proves that. I always make time for them and I stay at home more than my Wife to look after them and there are other people with disabilities like Asperger’s I have met that have children too and I can tell they’re not bad parents just by looking at the way they interact with their children and I have also met hundreds of ‘normal’ people that are horrible parents and my own Father is a good example. Only you and you alone can decide if you are going to be a good husband and a good Father but you need to start having confidence in yourself.

Contrary to popular belief an inferiority complex can be a good thing if you can take it and channel it into something you are good at. Focus on your talents and abilities and becoming the best ‘YOU’ that you can possibly be but don’t forget those people that say you can’t do something because you have disabilities because you need to show them that you can do anything and if there is one thing people like that despise more than a person with disabilities it is a person with disabilities that goes on to be more successful than them. You have the power and it all comes down to you and whether you want to spend the rest of your life being the retard they want you to be or the best person you want to be.