well, to be honest, safety is sort of the first step. she might be willing to work on a plan that's actionable and helps get you what you want if you can take danger off the table.
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“It's a funny thing... but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of.” ― Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed
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