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He told me he was doing this to spite the coworker and tell her husband once he got enough information because in the past she has cheated.
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The above excuse, in and of itself, speaks so badly of his character that my every instinct is to tell you to run away from this very bad man as fast as you can.
If it's true, he's an awful person who could very well do vengeful things to you if you displease him in some way. You would never be able to trust him to act with any degree of human decency.
If it's just an excuse, then you're not being paranoid and he's the one who's acting in a very suspicious and strange manner. He's acting like a cheater. How could you trust him?
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I grew suspicious due to the fact he hasn't told me anything and noticed that one of the girls he hardly talks about is pretty. I confronted him about it and he told me that, "If he should look away with every cute girl he sees?"
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That does make you sound overly jealous. So maybe it's not quite as simple as whether or not you're paranoid. It's very possible that he's acting very badly and that you're also too jealous and suspicious for your own good. Is that possible?
If this is a serious relationship, one that you hope might lead to a future together, the two of you might consider some form of couples counseling before you make any decisions about making a life together with combined finances, children and all of that. The relationship sounds very dramatic and traumatic at the moment. If he won't go to couples counseling, you might consider seeing a therapist on your own to help you figure how to negotiate life's more difficult problems. I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time.
