I am sorry you are going through this and that you feel somewhat trapped by your circumstances. The most important thing now is you and your children's safety and that should be the focus, as your therapist says. Running away will not do you, or your children, any good - especially your children. I am not trying to minimize your own needs, but as a parent I understand how overwhelming it is when there is so much emotional turmoil and the urge to run can be huge. But that won't help your case or help your children at all. If you need to run, going impatient may be the best thing for you. Your H just may not "get" it - people who haven't dealt with severe depression and worse often don't. Removing yourself from the focus and thinking about what's best for your kids in the long run is hopefully something your T is helping you do. A healthy mom is a good mom and even though you don't feel like it, you do have control over your own situation. The decision to go inpatient or not is ultimately yours, not your husband's.