Wow...your son is an outstanding young man. I'm proud of him.

Part of me has to agree, in part, with waiting4. I do understand that up and leaving is a difficult thing to do, and I don't fault you entirely. It's a hell of a proposition. But this "man" is a monster. It is entirely unacceptable for him to put you on trial in front of your children. Entirely. What is going on between you and him is your business. They have enough going on in the way of stress simply as the children. For him to drag them in and try to make them an...active participant, for lack of better phrasing...speaks to a horrific lack of empathy, an unstable personality, and cold calculation. He needs to be gone. You and your children NEED to be away from him. His being there is toxic to you and your family.

Hugs Silent...I hope things work out, and soon.

Hugs,
Harley