When you are very depressed sometimes even caring takes too much effort. There are days getting out of bed or off the couch is impossible. Thankfully, when I get in that place, I have a husband and mom who lovingly me (sometimes) nag and sometimes motivate me to at least take care of me and my house (my kids are always clean and fed and nurtured at least). Often times my mom will come to my house and take charge and make me get up and do at least something. It always feels relieving to get something accomplished.