(((((Inny)))))))

This is coming from the daughter of an alcoholic and an ex-wife of an alcoholic.....Like everyone else here said....YOU are NOT responsible for what your father does. YOU are also NOT responsible for saving the women who fall for him. They are adults and can make their own decisions. I don't care how much he rants and raves about you being the reason he drinks.....it's all lies. Alcoholics cannot take responsibility for their actions..it's always someone elses fault. Until they get help for their addiction, there is no understanding, there is no acceptance of what they do or how they do it. Until they get help, they do not take ownership of anything in their lives that ever went wrong. They can't "see" that their behavior could have possibly caused their own problems.

My daughters have a love/hate relationship with their father. One daughter helps him with things, the other daughter has basically nothing to do with him.

Hon, hang in there....I know in your heart you have to do what you feel you have to do. You have to feel comfortable that you have done everything you can to make the relationship work. When you are ready, if he doesn't change (which he won't if he doesn't admit he has a problem and seeks help for it) you may make up your mind to wash your hands of him. As much as that decision would hurt, what he is putting you through now is hurting far more deeply.

I hope you can find some peace soon dear one.

Hugssssss
J