We did go to marriage counseling actually for about a year, which was ok, but we never got too deep into it and so I wanted to stop. I liked the guy but he was older and tended to go off in tangents and we never accomplished what we were there to do. Any conversation that reached emotion was not welcomed by H and I was still passive, so we never explored the intimacy or infidelity issues (which were never admitted to) Interestingly, my H saw him individually after we stopped as a couple which I was so pleased with. It was off and on, but being the kind of guy he is, I was shocked he went at all. He continued until the this man retired. I've since suggested going again and he doesn't want to see someone else.