I was talking to a therapist yesterday and she asked for my definition of a narcissist...anyways hers was a backstabber. I am supposedly a borderline and the insult bothered me cause I know there are some similarities. Idk. Anyhow, my therapist said a narc wouldn't know it if they were one... that might be true but you can't pin someone as not being something just because of that example Shay gave. Especially when someone with a brain knows you don't have to meet all of the criteria to get the diagnosis. I feel that what Shay described is incompetence...stereotypical and some other things I can't think of right now.