Dear AK482,
You found a good sex therapist that's helping you - that's great! To me, that shows you have both determination and ingenuity to deal with your biggest issue.

My triggers for depression are usually my thoughts about events now or past. But often, I can't track them down. I think you're way ahead of some, myself included, if you actually notice you're getting depressed. The sooner we notice, the better we can deal with it.

I've had major depression over 60 years, and I am better now at shortening my episodes. But in the past, I could go for months actually believing that I was hopeless and everything happening was awful. In other words, I interpreted all the dark thoughts as reality - not as my own interpretation of events.

From my experience, I would advise you to keep working with your sex therapist, using every tool you learn. Also, use everything you have at your disposal, to target your depressed hopeless thoughts, or even to distract you from them until you feel like dealing with them. Examples: music, walking in nature, any other exercise you like, trying to see beauty, watching uplifting shows, etc. Whatever works for you.

Thanks, AK482. Sex and love has been a problem issue for me. I'm old enough now to feel OK about not having sex or a partner. This is an issue for many, so thanks for sharing your experience.