Sailorboy I totally hear you! I'm not a car person and don't really get the vanity of a fancy car or being totally ok with environmentally catastrophic vehicles. My T walks to work but has a very expensive SUV. I kind of wish she had a bike, a Prius or a well-loved Subaru too.

But there is no objective standard by which to judge people's income, spending priorities or other financial choices. I am wildly privileged compared to most people in the world. Wildly. Outrageously. Insanely. (I suspect that this is the case for many of us on this forum by virtue of our regular access to Internet and psychotherapy alone.) And I don't live incredibly humbly or use most of my disposable income to better the circumstances of people outside my household.

We tend to hold up our own circumstances, priorities and preferences as very reasonable ones, as a sort of baseline even, against which we evaluate others. Who can avoid that? I am the center of my own universe, there's pretty much no escaping that. But if we're at least conscious of that tendency, it can help us develop some perspective about ourselves, our T's and everyone else too.