There are several females here at PC that are Aspies. Being Aspie is not a death sentence.
It does have certain qualities. My H is a business owner, he is a deacon in the church. People seem to like his attention to detail. My son is an aspie as well and he has gift with sports. He has a natural ability to play basketball like no other. He is in the 9th grade and collages are looking at him already.

Don't be so hard on your self. Aspies are often highly motivated, self thinkers, leaders, very educated. Believe it or not many doctors, and lawyers and judges are Aspies . It is the ability to not let your emotions get in the way. Give your self a break, no one else is going to.