{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Mary Alice}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I don't really know what to tell you. If someone had a magic answer that would solve all of this stuff, it would have shown up by now, probably. There is one thing that stands out to me. Your are letting him dump everything on you, and you rush in to pick up the pieces and hold it all together, and he keeps getting away with it. Mary Alice, he's not helping you. I understand that he's on disability, but it seems like he would be more fit for work than you are right now. He needs to do something to contribute, and stop just mooching from you, and if he won't do that, you need to get away from him. The aggravation is not worth it. I'm worried with him having a checking account, he'll keep overdrawing it and you'll keep bailing him out, and it will be just that much easier for him to spend out of control and you can't work any more to cover it. I don't need to tell you your spending isn't going to help either. You've got to stand up for yourself and your needs, set limits, and don't do more than you can do. I wish someone would step in and protect you and provide for you. That's your husband's job. It doesn't look like it's going to happen though, so you are going to have to speak up when you feel yourself getting close to your limits. Don't wait until after you are pushed past them. Let your docs help you too, and listen to them. Maybe they can come up with some ideas for you.

I worry about you.

Wendy

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