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Originally Posted by stuck1978
Hi fembot067,
Don't think you're a failure. There will always be setbacks, but the important thing is not really to fight the fact that there are and will be setbacks, but accept it as part of the current state of things while still trying to move ahead.
It does take a lot of energy to go ahead with something despite your anxiety gnawing at the nape of your neck. Try letting it be and letting it gnaw. In fact, invite it and ask for more. Tell it to come, but try not to focus on it and go on with what you were going to do anyway. Don't worry how you appear to others. Even if you're quiet or not talkative sometimes, keep on going and interacting to the best of your ability at the moment while not pushing the anxiety away.
So, you slept over one day and felt not so good this one day. This is just one day out of your entire life, and you shouldn't stress over it or take it as a sign that the work has been undone. It might be undone a bit, but not completely. It's just a setback and an opportunity to work on and fix something new your life.
-stuck
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Hey Stuck, thank you for the reply,
I just can't get over this silly hurdle alone, it is so difficult, I think the main things which upset me most or certain things I am intolerant to are:
-finally talking to a group or someone new, and reacting very strongly to their comments if I disagree with them.
-How I look or am perceived in the group
-Getting mad at what people say around me I especially need to deal with.
-When someone who is extremely confident and competitive, works in the same place as me, it really puts me off trying, because I know that I can never be that person and my efforts are never acknowledged anyway, feel like people see my hang ups and take advantage. I just want nice people around me, but even they take advantage.
Your advice about keeping going to the meeting (which will be a new one next week with complete strangers again, because my sister works at the one I went to last week) is what I will take and work with as mentioned, little steps and all that.
Thank you
